Embrace the Camera: The Importance of Mums in Family Photos
When sorting through cherished memories after a loved one passes, many people find themselves surprised and saddened by the scarcity of photos featuring their mum. Often, mums tend to duck out of the frame, cover their faces, or simply be the ones behind the camera. This phenomenon leaves a noticeable gap in family photo albums, making it all the more important for mums to be present in these visual memories.
Several reasons contribute to why mums often avoid being in photos. Many mums feel self-conscious about their appearance. Whether it’s due to fatigue, not feeling their best, or worrying about extra weight, these insecurities can lead to a reluctance to be photographed. Traditionally, mums often assume the role of family photographer. This means they are the ones capturing the moments rather than being a part of them. The pressure to look perfect in photos can discourage mums from stepping in front of the camera, especially in the candid, everyday moments.
It's time to shift the focus from striving for perfect pictures to cherishing the imperfect yet meaningful moments. The real value of photos lies in the memories they capture. Whether it's a school concert, a family holiday, or a simple evening at home, these moments are precious. Years from now, your children will treasure the photos that show you were there, participating in their lives. Your family doesn’t see the imperfections you might worry about. They see their beautiful mum, full of love and warmth. Those extra kilos you worry about are invisible to them in the grand scheme of your shared moments. Modern technology makes it easier than ever to document daily life. Use the timer on your mobile phone, or ask a friend to take pictures. Set up a video to capture the laughter and conversations over a cup of tea. These simple acts can create lasting memories.
One of my most cherished photos is of my daughter, Ava, and me looking in the mirror together. This picture, taken by a camera on a tripod, captures a tradition we had after every bath—she would be wrapped in a towel, and we’d look in the mirror together. Although she’s now too big to lift, at 11, she still fondly remembers those moments and often says, “Remember when we used to do that?”
Mums, it’s time to step in front of the camera and be part of your family’s visual history. Your presence in photos is a gift to your children and future generations. Embrace the moments, let go of the desire for perfection, and remember that the most important thing is being there, fully present and involved in the lives of those you love. Your children will thank you for it, not because you looked perfect, but because you were there, sharing and creating precious memories with them.